The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints released the following statement today regarding the decisions announced by the United States Supreme Court on cases involving marriage:

"By ruling that supporters of Proposition 8 lacked standing to bring this case to court, the Supreme Court has highlighted troubling questions about how our democratic and judicial system operates. Many Californians will wonder if there is something fundamentally wrong when their government will not defend or protect a popular vote that reflects the views of a majority of their citizens.

"In addition, the effect of the ruling is to raise further complex jurisdictional issues that will need to be resolved.

"Regardless of the court decision, the Church remains irrevocably committed to strengthening traditional marriage between a man and a woman, which for thousands of years has proven to be the best environment for nurturing children. Notably, the court decision does not change the definition of marriage in nearly three-fourths of the states."

I have a problem with this.

A HUGE, HUGE problem.

Not because I believe in marriage equality, even though I do. Not because the church is upholding its support of traditional marriage. Not for any of those reasons.

But because it is petty and immature and feels like someone lashing out in anger rather than responding in a calm, rational way. 

Let me explain.

I have repeatedly been taught by this same church that the men who founded our government were inspired by God to do so to pave the way for religious freedom. These inspired men included a set of checks and balances built into the very fabric of the government - a way to make sure no one's rights are being infringe on, and that the government (and the people) aren't acting in a way that is inappropriate. This judicial check on popular opinion might have had an effect on, I don't know, pre WWII Germany? Where a majority of the people thought Jews were the scourge of society?

It's there so a majority vote that is unconstitutional can be overturned. Such as the majority vote to make a group of people not qualify for a list of civil rights based on sexual orientation.

So I find it troubling that the church is suggesting to its members that the built-in checks and balances we have are the enemy when something doesn't go our way.

I also find it troubling to have a petty little final line about how this MONUMENTAL and HISTORY CHANGING decisions really has done almost nothing to deter OUR goals.

In short, this statement is a perfect example of the reason I can believe that while the men who run the church are good men, they may not be receiving inspiration all the time. The voice behind this statement is not what I know the voice of God to sound like or look like. 

And here are some quotes by those inspired founding fathers:

Short skirts

I have a burning desire to write about today's DOMA ruling in the Supreme Court. (If you want to know the facts, see here.)

I also have a burning desire to write about my church's response, and how much it angered me. (If you would like to see the official statement, see here.)

But my thoughts are jumbled and full of heat of intellectual passion, and I need a few days to process them. Otherwise I'll just look like Miss Utah answering an interview question.

And to be honest, I am hesitant to post about the things I want to post about, because I don't want to offend people with my small liberations I'm taking from the lifestyle I lived when I was 100% in the church. I still take my religion very seriously, and I believe in the pure Gospel of Christ. I can't handle the organization that surrounds it, including the extremely patriarchal nature of the temple. (I believe that there are meant to be ordinances, but that something, somewhere, went wrong there.) I know this may differ from your views. Just know I respect yours. And I'm not trying to flout anyone's beliefs when I have some small celebrations.

It's been about a month since I removed my garments. And I still dress the same - same modesty standards, everything.

Today, however, I bought a skirt that hits about 3-4 inches above my knee.

It was on sale. And it looks DANG GOOD on me.

And that small act is so symbolic for me. There is nothing even remotely inappropriate or suggestive about the skirt. It is modest, and decent, and doesn't expose me. I'm just celebrating my ability to see modesty in a way that wasn't taught to me as a link to my personal relationship with God. I believe he cares more what's on the inside than the outside, and that my new skirt doesn't offend Him.

It's a step into what I believe is the next phase in my relationship with God, with my body, and with myself - where I don't have imposed standards that dictate my relationship with deity.

Anyway. I wanted to celebrate. Quietly, in my own little corner of the internet.

Bitch

So I read this book, once.

It's called "Why men love bitches".

This is the cover. I am ashamed to admit that I read this. Avidly.

And it talks about lots of things. Like why breakups are the worst (because you altered your whole life around this person, and now there's tons of empty stuff in your life when they are gone), and how to get your significant other to do things, and how to get out of doing the laundry and cooking. It's awesome. I bought it in Bangkok International Airport. I wanted it, but was too embarrassed to buy it in front of my extremely educated and literary sister. When her plane took off, that book was MINE.

One thing the author never really does is define, in one sentence, what a bitch really is. She describes this "tongue in cheek" bitch she is meaning to describe.

I am here today to define the word bitch.

Bitch (noun): A woman who does whatever she wants no matter what anyone else wants. No matter what.

Now that that is clear, I need to vent.

Swiss boyfriend's half ghanaian grandma (say that 10 times fast) is in town, and she is, by my definition, a BITCH.

The first 2 days, she was on her best behavior. Now, she has become a raging she-dragon of a woman, who I tiptoe around. Her presence has caused 2 fights in our relationship so far, and she has only been here 5 days.

Let me give you a few examples.

1) We went to a blues festival. She was cold. So she made swiss boyfriend's dad go get her a coat, and made swiss boyfriend's mom switch her seats. Then she got hot, so the whole process was reversed.

2) On the way home in the car, she got hot. SHE WAS WEARING A WOOL SWEATER. but her solution was to make swiss boyfriend's dad turn up the AC until I was shivering. Making me shiver, I might add, is a FEAT. I have a high tolerance for air conditioning, especially on a hot june day.

3) She has corrected my table manners at least once a meal since she has been here. I have a strong desire to eat everything with my hands and lick between my fingers when I am done.

4) 2 months a year, on sunday nights, a show I like comes on TV. I wait for it all week, sing the theme song all the time, and thing about it all the time. So on sunday nights, I'm pretty much uninterested in other people's plans. That's all I ask - 10 sunday nights a year. Last night, she decided that EVERYONE had to watch a movie together. No exceptions. So by the time swiss boyfriend and I got to watch the show, it was past midnight. We were up till 2. We work at 8. Thank you, swiss boyfriend's half ghanaian grandma.

5) She insists on cooking dinner, then complains about how stressful it is and how everyone expects her to cook, and she uses EVERY DAMN DISH IN THE HOUSE. And we clean up after her.

Here's the thing; swiss boyfriend's parents are awesome. And chill. And now, I know why. To survive any sort of relationship with this woman, one has to take an enormous daily chill pill.